The internet has slammed a man after he teased his wife in front of their wedding guests in a post going viral on social media.
Published to Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/Face-Abstract7679 shared her story to get the opinions of the “AITA” community. The popular post has over 7,000 upvotes and 1,200 comments.
The original poster (OP) began her post by saying that she has always struggled with self-esteem. She considers herself an introvert, anxious and socially awkward. She got into makeup during her twenties and now does it for a source of income and to help her boost her confidence and self-esteem in her thirties.
She wrote that her husband likes to tell jokes, be sarcastic and has a brutally honest side to him. OP added that she doesn’t have a problem with it as long as it’s in private.
She explained where things took a turn: “At our wedding I went a bit out of box when it came to makeup, but it looked matching and fitting obviously. My husband didn’t stop commenting on it during the wedding. I was beginning to get annoyed but when it was time for his groom speech. He looked at me and then said ‘…and my wife here who looks like a department store mannequin with that makeup on her face…’ I was dumbfounded.”
She continued: “Guests started laughing at me loosely. I felt so much rage I didn’t know how to contain it. I waited til his parents were around then I went off on him about what he said. He said it was just a joke and I took it too personally. I argued with him about how I felt regarding his teasing in public but he insisted I blew this out of proportion and ruined ‘the atmosphere’ for the wedding as well as humiliated him infront[sic] of his parents when I scolded him like he was a kid.”
She wrote that he “sulked” for three days and then wanted her to apologize for the “negative vibe” she gave him and for overreacting to a joke.
Newsweek reached out to u/Face-Abstract7679 for comment.
People that have self-esteem issues is very common around the world. According to Grand Rapids Counseling Services (GRCS), 85 percent of people around the world are affected by low self-esteem.
Self-esteem can be hurt when people are put in stressful situations, according to the Mayo Clinic, including a work or school presentation, tense issues at home or work, a change in life events like losing a job or a challenge rising with a partner, family member or friend.
So how can you improve your self-esteem? According to nhs.uk, acknowledge the things you are good at, stay connected with positive relationships, find ways to be kind to yourself, be assertive, learn ways to say “no” and challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone.
Fellow Reddit users were quick to comment in defense of OP for her reaction.
“[Not the a**hole], and brace yourself for a lifetime of this bulls**t. It’ll always be him kicking you and then getting all hurt when you yelp,” u/Ribbon- wrote, receiving the top comment with over 15,000 upvotes.
“[Not the a**hole],” u/CrystalQueen3000 added. “He has the emotional intelligence of a soggy cloth. Making fun of his new bride in front of all her friends and family is just peak stupidity, as well as just being cruel. Even if you didn’t have self esteem issues and anxiety that would’ve been a dumb move.”
“[Not the a**hole]. You expressed hurt and he turned the tables and said you need to apologize??? He is not off to a good start when he can not emphasize with how such comments are hurtful and embarrassing,” u/Voidg commented.
“[Not the a**hole]. It is never appropriate to roast your spouse at the wedding [the f**k]. Unless you both agreed on doing a roast, obviously. But you didn’t. That was way out of line,” u/VixNeko said.
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