“The G-spot is actually a very debated term,” explains Cameron Long-Tel, a sex educator and sexpert at LELO. “It may or may not exist – and there’s a huge misconception of it being some magic button within your vagina that is the key to pleasure.”
It’s also known as the Gräfenberg spot and was named after German-Jewish gynaecologist and early pioneer of sexual health, Ernst Gräfenberg. “Many studies have proved it’s not an anatomic entity, but rather an area or ‘zone’ within the vagina, different for everyone, is sensitive to touch and capable of producing an orgasm with intense stimulation,” continues Long-Tel. “There’s also a misconception that the G-spot is distinct from the clitoris, when in fact these two spots go hand in hand — the G-spot is actually our internal clitoris.”
If trying to find an internal pleasure point, some experts say you should aim for the spongy tissue — around five-eight centimetres up the front of the vaginal wall. Once located, it may swell and become sensitive. To stimulate it, some recommend using a ‘come hither’ motion, while others suggest automating the process and using one of the (best) G-spot vibrators above.
Can you orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone?
“Some women can experience intense orgasms from internal G-spot stimulation alone, whilst most experience orgasms from direct, external, clitoral stimulation,” Long-Tel explains. “But it isn’t anything you need to stress about, because either way, an orgasm is an orgasm, and rest assured, it will feel pretty good whatever form it comes to you.”
“Everyone is different and enjoys different things,” Gigi Engle, award-winning author, leading sexologist and sex expert at Sextoys.co.uk suggests. “Every single kind of orgasm is equal.”
What is the difference between a G-spot vibrator and a dildo?
“G-spot vibrators are designed specifically for G-spot stimulation and are inserted into the vagina,” Long-Tel explains. They come in many designs, but the main giveaway is that they usually have a curved shape or bulbous head to hit the so-called spot. Some are ribbed, others smooth, but most have a curved shape and bulbous head to hit the so-called spot with ease.
“Although they are designed for penetration, they don’t go as deep as a dildo and the focus is all on targeting the G-spot, deemed to be located up the front of the vaginal wall,” she adds. Dildos, therefore, tend to be longer, straighter, and intended to mimic penetration by a penis.
How to use a G-spot vibrator:
When using a G-spot vibrator for the first time — or any sex toy for that matter — we suggest taking it slow. Coat the tip with water-based lube before gently placing the vibrating tip on various erogenous zones. Using the various buttons, wireless remotes or an accompanying app on your phone, cycle through the modes to see which you like the feel of.
The same rules apply when heading downstairs. Load up with lubricant before directing the vibrating tip at your clit. This may help you start to feel aroused and, consequently, a little more relaxed. Once ready, gently slide the tip inside. Aim the teaser at the front wall (AKA behind your belly button). Finding the right spot will feel differently for everyone, but you may feel a swell of pleasure, or the toy meets a softer, squishier section. Either way, don’t be afraid to try out different angles and positions.
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